Why do you feel emotions in your body? How can you get out of automatic trauma response and into a place where you can respond to a situation with clarity and awareness? How can you make a meaningful change in your emotional response without a coping mechanism?
In this podcast episode, I speak with Cedric Bertelli about managing your emotional health.
Meet Cedric Bertelli
Cedric Bertelli is the Founder and Director of the Emotional Health Institute (EHI), an organization that provides information and education about Emotional Resolution, or EmRes. EHI gives people struggling with stress, depression, anxiety, and other negative emotions access to the best-trained professionals who can guide them to resolve disruptive emotional patterns.
Cedric began to study and research the Emotional Resolution (EmRes) process in 2009 in his home county of France and has developed his understanding of emotional functioning and his craftsmanship of EmRes throughout the years. In addition to training mental health professionals, coaches, and educators on Emotional Resolution, Cedric also works with clients individually.
In This Podcast
- Emotions demystified
- It is possible to update a prediction
- Shift from a human being to a living being
That’s how we learn right, we have a prediction, and we learn something new, the prediction is updated and we move on… now an emotional difficulty is a prediction that never had a chance to be updated … at the origin of every one of our patterns is the same kind of event: in order for us to have an emotional pattern at the origin is a moment of very intense stress. (Cedric Bertelli)
Our brains are networks of patterns, behaviors, and predictions. From all the stimuli we experience in our lives from childhood to adulthood, our brain categorizes them and files them under different patterns that we have and predictions of how we consider the future, based on these past experiences.
When we undergo a period of intense stress or trauma, as a protective mechanism our brain’s cognition shuts down and our subconscious begins to record what is happening around us.
During that moment of disassociation your subconscious mind is recording what you see, what you smell, what you hear, what you sense on your skin and what physical sensations that you feel in your body. (Cedric Bertelli)
We can therefore update our predictions of the world only when our subconscious and cognitive minds are aligned.
However, in moments of stress, our cognition shuts down and only our subconscious mind is recording our surroundings and, therefore, creates predictions without the cognitive mind that can provide an important rational lens.
Interoception: the physical sensations felt by the body letting us know that we are feeling an emotion. The physical sensation that we feel when we have an emotion are the exact same sensations that were felt the moment that the emotion was created … it is like a vortex, a window [that] opens into the past. (Cedric Bertelli)
Your memories, therefore, record themselves in physical sensations in your body. That is why you have a full-body experience when you re-experience the trauma.
It is possible to update a prediction
In the space between what your physical reality is and what your trauma-body predicts the reality to give it, you can shift the prediction.
Based on past experiences your body will predict trauma or the stress that it once experienced in a similar situation and will try to stop you from recreating that situation. However, when we recreate that situation and our cognitive mind and subconscious mind are aligned, we can show our body and rewrite the prediction that it can be, and will be, okay.
An emotional difficulty, a disruptive emotional pattern happens when the body memory is not in sync with the current reality … our emotional difficulty very often is feeling the experience of the moment … when we look at our life outside of the experience that we live … the experience right now is not anxiety-generating, it is not congruent to experience jealously, anger, anxiety based on what is happening right now. (Cedric Bertelli)
What emotional resolution is doing is teaching people to tune into their body, update the prediction of the body and teach it to become in tune with what is actually happening in the current reality, and not react to situations with the old prediction.
Shift from a human being to a living being
The way to [permanently update an emotional response] is quite simple: you have to stay in presence of the stimulus – you know that you are in presence of a stimulus because you feel an emotion – to resolve an emotional difficulty you have to stay in presence of a stimulus in a safe place, without trying to control what is happening in your body or without trying to control what [you think the stimulus is]. (Cedric Bertelli)
When you are in front of the stimulus your body will create an interoceptive prediction, a physical sensation, and when you stay in that physical sensation and it passes over you, your body will realize that you (and it) can stay in presence of that stimulus and still be safe and sound.
Then, the prediction no longer has reason to be there anymore because you have shown your body that this prediction is no longer necessary, and you update it.
You update the prediction by showing your body that it will be safe and is safe even when the stimulus is present. This can only happen when you do not have a reaction, when you do not try to stop, change or pull away from it because that behavior enforces the prediction instead of rewriting it.
Rewrite your predictions from shifting from being a human being: someone that experiences something difficult and tries to change it, minimize it or stop it, to being a living being: someone that experiences something and lets it pass over them because they know that they can change the prediction by not inhibiting it.
Books mentioned in this episode
Lisa Feldman Barrett – How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain
- My Patterns Made Me Do it, Behavioral Change with Adele Spraggon | BM 60
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