How does what you say to yourself affect your kids? What behavior can you model for your children to set them up for a fulfilling and confident life? Are there some pieces of wisdom that kids can teach parents?
In this podcast episode, Melissa talks to her daughters, Havannah, Jovina, and Alondra about staying mentally tough and being confident.
Meet Havannah, Jovina, and Alondra
Havannah Vogel is 14 years old and plays club volleyball and loves to dance.
Jovina Vogel loves the outdoors and does Taekwondo and volleyball.
Alondra Vogel also does Taekwondo, loves the outdoors, and bike riding. She loves her dog Flex and for fun, she likes to do wakeboarding in the summer.
In This Podcast
- It is okay to be proud of yourself
- Get in the zone
- ‘Mean Girls’
It is okay to be proud of yourself
For both adults and kids, it is okay to be proud of yourself when you do well. When you replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk and you congratulate yourself for showing up to do the work instead of berating yourself for not doing more, big changes start to happen. By being proud of yourself and teaching your kids to be proud of themselves, you can teach them – and yourself – how to become resilient and self-maintaining of your body and mind, and not subject to such sudden changes in mood or when life becomes difficult.
Get in the zone
For Melissa, putting on her exercise shoes and her hat puts herself into the zone. This physical action leads to her ‘flipping the switch’ mentally and getting herself into the mood and into the zone to take it seriously and give it her all for the next hour or training period. By encouraging this in your children, you teach them how to control their minds from an early age. They learn how to control their mind, mental toughness, and practice self-discipline and this boosts their self-confidence and trust in their abilities.
For teenagers, especially young women, there is a toxic culture of negative self-talk that is common. By training and teaching your children to be proud of themselves and their accomplishments, they get to hear themselves back themselves up and build trust in the relationship they have with themselves that has its foundation in self-appreciation and self-respect. Appreciate your kids:
- Say it to them. Compliment them whether or not they want to hear it.
- Teaching them self-love so that they will not always seek it from other people, in the wrong ways or from the wrong people.
Model this behavior to your children, show them that it matters and that you care, and by showing them that you matter and that you care about yourself as a person, they learn to exhibit that behavior to themselves.
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Meet Melissa Vogel
Melissa Vogel is an energetic keynote speaker, business owner, certified personal trainer, certified group fitness instructor, 1st degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, a mother of three, and a podcaster.
Melissa has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire Magazine, and Built the Busy to Bomb Fit Mom exercise system.
She is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!
Melissa has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine. Her approach incorporates personal experience, energy, humor, and charisma.
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