Do you find yourself not expressing your emotions and then struggling with powerful resentment and frustration? What are some of the benefits of expressing yourself to both yourself and your loved ones? How can you work through difficult and sometimes overwhelming emotions?
In this podcast episode, Melissa Vogel speaks about processing your feelings and emotions with mindset coach Mary Hyatt.
Meet Mary Hyatt
Mary Hyatt is a life and business mindset coach who specializes in helping high achieving female entrepreneurs move from living a life of burnout to a life where they are connected to their emotions, their body, and their spirit. She helps bring her 1 on 1 and group coaching clients back to their enoughness, wholeness, and femininity.
Mary is the host of the Living Fully Alive podcast that airs weekly where she dives deeper into mindset and helps her listeners learn to embody a life fully lived. She is also a Top Earner with doTERRA Essential Oils, helping teach women how to support their bodies and emotions holistically.
As a trained Hypnotherapist and Kundalini Yoga Instructor, Mary brings a level of consciousness and soul focused inner work to everything she does.
In This Podcast
- Steps that moms can take to start connecting their emotions to their body
- Take a deep breath and start reparenting yourself
- The importance of having a preference
- Teaching kids to recognize potentially harmful messages
Steps that moms can take to start connecting their emotions to their body
Many people refuse or dislike dealing with negative emotions because they are terrified of them. However, all emotions both ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are parts of life and we all move through them at different stages, therefore it is important to know how to deal with them.
In order for us to be fully alive … we have to be willing and give ourselves permission to feel it all without there being judgement on the negative feelings.
A process that Mary recommends to her clients goes as follows:
- Close your eyes and pause.
- Take 3 deep breaths, all the way in, and exhale all the air out in slow, deep breaths.
- Put your hand on your chest or over your heart and ask yourself: ‘what am I feeling?’ This may be hard to get going right away, so remember that it is a process that you learn and practice being patient with yourself in this new process.
- As you breathe, listen, and feel the emotive sensations in your body: what would you be feeling if you could name that emotion, without criticizing it or wanting to change or fix it. Try to come at it with neutrality.
- Pause and listen to the answer. As you breathe and out with each inhale and exhale, see if you can soften to allow space for that emotion to just be, without judging or discrediting it.
So it’s almost like you’re taking the role of the observer and you’re just witnessing what already is in your body, the vibration that’s in your body right below the surface, and you’re just bringing awareness to it.
- Now think, where does that emotion live in your body? Throat, stomach, chest? What does it feel like; hot, tight, nauseous, heavy?
Just that practice of coming into your body, allowing yourself to feel what you feel and identify where it is in the body, what it feels like in the body, that is this invitation and a road back to the present moment, and from there anything is possible. Once you begin to cultivate that, oh my God, that’s where you create this relationship with your body and then all of that information ends up being feedback.
Take a deep breath and start reparenting yourself
It is a steady process with steady progress to feel and experience your emotions without judgment and criticism to then learning how to express your emotions when you have a need without feeling like they are not valid. Your emotions and your needs go hand in hand, that is why when we have needs and do not express them, they bottle up and grow into resentment.
Admitting how I was feeling and vocalizing that gave me the opportunity to actually meet the need that was at the root of what I was feeling.
Expressing emotions is not a big explosion like how many worry they will be. Learning how to continually express how you are and what your needs are when they come up will mean that you hardly ever are resentful because your needs are being expressed and you are creating space for them to be met.
The importance of having a preference
Having a preference, even for which movie to see and what to get out for takeaways, is a small and basic practice that you can use to strengthen how you use your voice. They are small exercises that help you practice exercising your voice. Be willing and ready to have a preference and when moments come up wherein you can express them, it also connects with the idea of being conscious and connected in the present moment. Because in order to express your preference with confidence, you will have to be aware of the emotions that may pass through from this, especially if you are new to expressing your needs. However small, learning to express your preference is a muscle-building skill that also teaches you to trust in the power of your voice.
Teaching kids to recognize potentially harmful messages
As a parent, one can see how many different messages and mindsets children are being exposed to every day, especially through global social media platforms. Kids do not easily have a say about what they are exposed to.
Therefore as a parent, you can recognize where those messages are coming from that your child is receiving, and you can change those routes. Have conversations about the ability to recognize those messages with your children and teach them principles that can keep them safe and focused in a world with intensive social media.
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Meet Melissa Vogel
Melissa Vogel is an energetic keynote speaker, business owner, certified personal trainer, certified group fitness instructor, 1st degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, a mother of three, and a podcaster.
Melissa has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire Magazine, and Built the Busy to Bomb Fit Mom exercise system.
She is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!
Melissa has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine. Her approach incorporates personal experience, energy, humor, and charisma.
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