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Are you stuck in a cycle of repeating old habits, when these habits no longer serve you? How are your current nutritional and motivational patterns affected by the past? How do you break these patterns to create new ones?
In this podcast episode, Melissa Vogel speaks with her client Amber on a coaching call about how the past can impact the present.
In This Podcast
Summary
- The power of ‘cancel’ and when to use it
- The importance of self-talk
- Plan the promises to yourself and with others
The power of ‘cancel’ and when to use it
If I don’t put myself first, I’m never gonna change.
This work is the work of breaking down and putting a stop to old habits and life-patterns that no longer serve you. It will take practice to do this on a daily basis, so do not be put down if you fall back once or twice. But, in order to make the change, you need to be willing to sacrifice some of the old to welcome in the new.
When you find yourself going back on your own word, cancel it. Physically say the word ‘cancel’ out loud to stop yourself from acting on impulse and to bring you back to reality and out of the autopilot. Getting into this habit will help you to stop yourself, regear, and make the shift you want to make. Try using this ‘cancel’ technique as a gentle tap on the wrist to remind yourself that this is something you want to change.
The importance of self-talk
I want you to really start finding your why within yourself. I want you to keep working on this because it has to come from a place of love. Your self love and your self-worth has to be at the forefront.
The views we have of our ourselves are not set in stone. Our minds are reprogrammable and so are their narratives. Shifting the way we speak about and to ourselves can have powerfully positive effects, and can encourage you to change patterns.
A lot begins with speech – the way we think about ourselves and what we say to ourselves in difficult situations can either fan the flames or douse the fire. It is important to shift the narrative you have of yourself away from things that you believe you cannot do towards thinking that you can do them, by setting your mind to it. It is not always who we think we are that stops us from achieving our goals, but it is who we think we are not. Instead of doubting, think ‘what if’, and ‘I can’ and ‘let’s try and see what happens.’ Befriend yourself instead of being the constant critic and watch the positive change unfold.
Figure out your ‘why’ as fuel to keep your goals running. Every time you hit an obstacle and find yourself turning back to who you once were, ‘cancel’ that moment with a tap on the wrist and remember your ‘why’ to keep you going.
Plan the promises to yourself and with others
To yourself
Sit with a pen in hand and structure your calendar for the next week, and then two weeks, and so forth until you can plan the month ahead. Writing out these intentions and wishes in your own hand will help you to connect with these dreams and ambitions, instead of typing them out like another to-do list. Start small. Plan out this week’s meals and exercise routines for yourself to visualize it, pen in hand.
With others
If you live in a bustling household with ten things you can do at any given moment, make sure to let your household and loved ones know when you will be taking time to do things for you. Setting out a boundary around your recently written out schedule will help you to protect your integrity, and will show to yourself and to others that this is important. Consciously carving out time with yourself will bring you to value it – take one hour a day to exercise and guard it. Make arrangements with your partner to mind the kids or get started on dinner during this time, because this is your time for you to make space for your ambitions as an individual.
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Meet Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel is an energetic keynote speaker, business owner, certified personal trainer, certified group fitness instructor, 1st degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, a mother of three, and a podcaster.
Melissa has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire Magazine, and Built the Busy to Bomb Fit Mom exercise system.
She is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!
Melissa has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine. Her approach incorporates personal experience, energy, humor, and charisma.
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