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Are you struggling with being comfortable in your own skin? Do your insecurities hold you back? Do you not think you’re enough?
In this podcast episode, Melissa talks to Veronica Cisneros about extremes, insecurities, and acceptance.
Meet Veronica Cisneros
Veronica is a licensed therapist and owner of Outside the Norm Counseling. She is also a wife and mom of three daughters, and she wants her girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future.
She can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life. So Veronica started Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before they ever need to see a therapist.
Visit Veronica’s website, connect on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Listen to the podcast here.
In This Podcast
Summary
- Closeted insecurities
- Getting over the negative self-talk
- Shame
- Distorted thoughts
- Giving yourself permission without feeling the guilt
- Coaching
Closeted insecurities
And so, it was all these insecurities coming up for me and ultimately, you know, I realized, well wait a minute, I don’t feel worthy, and I feel completely insecure.
Veronica shares a story of how her self-sabotaging with food led her to a place of insecurity, the low point that made her decide to make a change.
Getting over the negative self-talk
Who is the person you’re trying to get acceptance from? Who was that person when you were a kid and who is that person now? When you’re met with constantly disappointing, it turns into an internal dialogue of “I’m not enough”. We then don’t do any of the things we want to do because we don’t think we’re capable. We need to dive deep and understand why this is happening, why do we not think we’re enough?
Shame
And I realized, holy moly, every time I self-sabotage, I’m also exposed to this level of shame. And that feeling hurt so much, that feeling hurt so, so much, and I don’t know what to do with it because nobody ever taught me.
Distorted thoughts
In the clinical world, negative self-talk is referred to as “distorted thoughts”. We believe that these distorted thoughts are facts, we believe that they’re 100% true and no one can convince us otherwise. We overgeneralize, catastrophize, and minimize.
Giving yourself permission without feeling the guilt
You get to make an active choice to do something different, every single time.
What is living this way right now costing you? Are you really connected with the people in your life? Stepping out of our comfort zone gives us a sense of empowerment. We become unapologetic, we give ourselves permission, we don’t need permission from anyone else. We get to choose, we get to let go, release, and move forward.
Coaching
Veronica offers multiple coaching options. On Facebook, you can find a free group called Empowered and Unapologetic – a community of women just treading lightly and seeing what it’s all about. Veronica also has a VIP membership group that is completely private. Veronica creates a personalized plan for you. Where you want to go, what your goals are, talk about your insecurities, and the group goes through it together. You attend live coaching calls and you’re hand-selected an accountability partner. Coaching is available to anyone, anywhere, we can work together no matter where we live.
Useful Links:
- Get Out of the Pantry and Slowly Put Down the Bag of Donuts with Veronica Cisneros | BM 09
- BTBFM FREE EMAIL COURSE
Meet Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel is an energetic keynote speaker, business owner, certified personal trainer, certified group fitness instructor, 1st degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, a mother of three, and a podcaster.
Melissa has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire Magazine, and Built the Busy to Bomb Fit Mom exercise system.
She is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!
Melissa has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine. Her approach incorporates personal experience, energy, humor, and charisma.
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