Are you a worn-out mom who can’t remember the last time she did something for herself? Do you feel like you’re living your life for your family?
In this podcast episode, Melissa Vogel talks about how to become a master pivoter, which is the first pillar of being a Bomb Mom.
In This Podcast
- What it means to be a ‘Bomb Mom’
- The five pillars of being a Bomb Mom
- The definition of a ‘Mom Blob’
- How to become a master pivoter
- Three tips to take action today
What it Means to be a ‘Bomb Mom’
The term ‘bomb’ can mean explosive, powerful, and just freaking cool. Back in the day, we used to use the term ‘bombshell’ for a woman. Right now, you can live your life as Bomb Mom!
5 Pillars of Being a Bomb Mom
A Bomb Mom is…
- A Master Pivoter
- Has an Active Lifestyle
- Has a Determined Mindset
- Acts ‘As If’
- Is Inspirational
It may feel like it’s impossible to fulfill this definition of being a Bomb Mom. I felt that too in the beginning! But then, I realized that that was all a lie.
All your excuses are just your opinion, they are not fact. You have 110% the potential to become this Bomb Mom!
It all starts with your mindset. Your mind is the general that tells your troops, your body, what it needs to do. If you think you can, you’re right. And, if you think you can’t, you’re also right.
The ‘Mom Blob’
When I had kids, I figured that was what my life would be like for the rest of my life. This was based on the example of my mother and aunts and other women I had seen do it. The term I came up with to describe this was a ‘Mom Blob’.
This is absolutely fine if it’s the way you want to live your life, but I decided, once my kids became more independent, that I wasn’t ok with just being ok. I opened my mind up to the possibility of being something more than just a soft mom that drives a minivan. Also, I didn’t want to be ‘fit for having three kids’.
I didn’t just want to be someone’s mom.
There I was, wanting to have my own identity while still kicking ass at being a mom. Learning how to become a Bomb Mom has helped me grow and has altered the direction of my life. It’s given me permission to want more.
At times, the narrative of being a mother more fits the ‘Mom Blob’ description than the ‘Bomb Mom’ description. I’m here to remind you that you can be awesome!
The Struggling Mom
Speaking to many women every week, I’ve realized that moms are not ok. Women are stuck. They feel like they have lost themselves and are living their lives for someone else. It’s a crazy phenomenon happening in our backyards, and is really sad.
Losing yourself to motherhood is a scary place to be.
‘Busy’ and ‘activity’ doesn’t equal achieving your goals. Yet, when women realize that they are unhappy with their life, they try something new. A new shake, a new fitness routine, something that comes off as super easy and promises to give the best results. And true, it might work in the beginning. You may lose some weight. But then, when life happens, they stop. And then, we feel as though we’ve failed.
As moms, we feel enough mom-guilt. So we don’t need to feel as though we’re failing in other areas of our lives.
Being a Master Pivoter
Life is never going to slow down. So, there is never going to be a good time to work out or eat right. Instead, you have to learn how to pivot.
The typical mom will go along with whatever their kids’ schedule looks like and barely have any time for themselves or to work out, etc. A Bomb Mom, however, will look at the schedule ahead of time and figure out how to fit in a workout, while their kid is busy with their sports, for example. And they will remain in the right headspace.
The more you pivot, the better you get.
It’s not easy, but it’s worth it! You can learn new skills and techniques so that when life happens, you’re still able to pivot and put in some time to be active.
3 Tips to Take Action
- Sit down with a pen, and your calendar, and identify roadblocks for the next three days. How can you work around these? Pivot.
- Identify imperfect moments where you can be active.
- Just f#*!ing do it, and then reward yourself! (Rule of Three)
When we change as a mom, that trickles down into our relationships with our significant other and our kids.
Meet Melissa Vogel
Melissa Vogel is an energetic keynote speaker, business owner, certified personal trainer, certified group fitness instructor, 1st degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, a mother of three, and a podcaster.
Melissa has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire Magazine, and Built the Busy to Bomb Fit Mom exercise system.
She is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!
Melissa has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine. Her approach incorporates personal experience, energy, humor, and charisma.
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